So many people ask Javier and I about how people know if they should fight for their marriage. When ours hit bottom over nine years ago, we realized quickly that we had our biggest life choice ahead of us: to keep fighting or go separate ways. Finito. It sounds dramatic and it was. I remember…

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Instead of pretending that #pandemiclife is anything else but a hot mess, I’m opening to crushing the facade of pretense, assumption, and appearances. This is most certainly true in the realm of social justice. Authority, institutions, statues, and history (the stories we learn and tell ourselves) are being questioned and challenged– and becoming more transparent…

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One of the biggest challenges of surviving COVID-19 is enduring the continual stress of lockdown measures as well as the considerable increase of time and proximity with loved ones. And, yes, that includes one’s spouse! (Let alone, one’s kids.) As many of us may have previously thought that it was great to have more time…

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“Quarantine” commonly defined as “a state, period, or place of isolation in which people or animals that have been exposed to an infectious or contagious disease are placed” is our new normal this Spring 2020. As a friend put it, “I wasn’t expecting to give up this much for Lent.” None of us were. Withdrawal…

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I don’t know about you, but I usually get excited about the New Year. It’s invigorating to reflect on the past and envision the future. Taking stock leads me to feel hopeful and pumped for possibilities and enthusiastic for change. Let’s DO this, 2020!  Then life happens. This year, a reality check arrived immediately. After…

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