When to Stay and When to Leave

So many people ask Javier and I about how people know if they should fight for their marriage. When ours hit bottom over nine years ago, we realized quickly that we had our biggest life choice ahead of us: to keep fighting or go separate ways. Finito. It sounds dramatic and it was. I remember…

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Meltdowns Are Inevitable

Instead of pretending that #pandemiclife is anything else but a hot mess, I’m opening to crushing the facade of pretense, assumption, and appearances. This is most certainly true in the realm of social justice. Authority, institutions, statues, and history (the stories we learn and tell ourselves) are being questioned and challenged– and becoming more transparent…

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How to Not Get Divorced during a Quarantine

One of the biggest challenges of surviving COVID-19 is enduring the continual stress of lockdown measures as well as the considerable increase of time and proximity with loved ones. And, yes, that includes one’s spouse! (Let alone, one’s kids.) As many of us may have previously thought that it was great to have more time…

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Praying in Public

One of the biggest gifts I received from my marriage was the courage to pray in public. I was a bit of a late bloomer when it came to unabashedly declaring my faith in front of strangers. Perhaps, this was my internalized sense of shame of having an ambivalent relationship with God in the past…

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